Whether it is dysfunctional personality, marriage, leadership, institutions, etc. parenting will constitute so much of its turnout.
Why Parenting? Virtue can only be known by doing – James Allen. You are not successful until you produce credible successor, for success is measured by continuity – Ogboo Akujuobi. A good father [and mother] leaves inheritance to their children children – proverbs 13:22. Whether it is dysfunctional personality, marriage, leadership, institutions, etc. parenting will constitute so much of its turnout. It will not suffice if humanity dwells on their individual and private happiness without considering the society. Say a man and woman desired and decided to pool in their lot together in a bond of matrimony without also planning what to do in event of coming children. Yes, it is every citizen’s right to marry and seek their happiness with whomsoever, whenever and wherever. However, every right that man enjoys is never free, for such rights are ratified when the individuals takes responsibility. Parenting is tough! It is not like choosing a spouse. Somehow, you had a preconception of what would attract you. You knew your spouse before you became husband and wife. Both of you had opportunity to size and bargain with yourselves. But children come to this world without any previous acquaintanceship or negotiation; either with their parents or society. Parenting is same as husbandry or crop farming where the farmer takes all the loads of cultivation, preservation and profits. Any couple with worthy children is praise to themselves and the community. For this very reason, every parent must imbibe the art of parenting, embracing in practice methods that will ensure perpetuation of the right kind of citizens. I see many people, men and women today battered, bruised and ripped of their masculinity and femininity. These adults now suffer what actually were not their makings. They are big wrecks in career, business, relationships, socially poor, insecure and always seeking affirmations, oftentimes victims. Some that attempts the line of emancipation, mostly turnout villains as they go crude and extreme. Therefore, good parenting is producing prototype of generations to come. It serves the good of the parents, the child, community and institutions. But the higher takers ultimately are the parents and the child. As there are violent, selfish, low esteem, greedy, hateful, lazy, etc. people on one hand, on the other hand there are compassionate, God-fearing, confident, enterprising, straight dealing, etc. people. All these are results of deposit in early foundation from bad or good parenting. Birth is the consequence of insemination and child molding will be a deliberate inculcation of virtue by parents/guardians. It is my earnest prayer that parents should learn the art of parenting and be willing and eager to ply such on their children. Caregivers should complement efforts at raising a total child. Society will be worth living! LOGICS OF PARENTING is a comprehensive, step-by-step easy to understand DIY guide. It is also a tool to mediate with your erratic child. Remain blessed. Ogboo Akujuobi DD, PhD
No week in my 12 years of marriage that went by without fights between my husband and I. Power struggle and rebelion, however I love him. I never knew that I was at fault and wrong about marriage and my place as a wife. From home I was misinformed by my mother. Saw how she ruled over my father and everyone else, and I thought that's the right attitude. I was always right and my husband and anyone that see with him were wrong. Because of my troubles, the man that loved me so much requested to be posted to another location far from home. I got enlightened in one of the HMI meetings how wrong and stupid I was, when you don’t know your place in marriage. I went for counseling and they helped us to come together again. We're so happy now.
I married late and after 7 years of waiting with the usual pressure and threats, I finally gave birth to our son Jato. He was a very funny, good looking boy. We doted on him so much. He was our world. When he was 10 my husband began to complain about his poor behavior and I would always come to his defense. That was when I lost him. At 15 he left the comfort of our home and joined gangs. Our sorrows were so deep. Two old people going childless. During the 2021 Marriage/Family Leadership Campaign in my community my husband and I petitioned God and went to see the Man of God. Today our son is with us and doing well. My husband and I are doing well both in the Lord and love because all these challenges really took away the warmth we shared. But now there’s all the restoration. Hallelujah.
We were on the brink of separation, but HMI's family support programs gave us the tools and faith we needed to rebuild our marriage. Thank you, HMI!
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